It’s a question I hear all the time: “Am I an alcoholic?” People even call me up and ask point-blank. And you know what? The very fact that they’re picking up the phone and asking probably means they already suspect the answer. It’s not a question someone with a healthy relationship with alcohol typically asks themselves.
So, what is an alcoholic? In my mind, it’s someone who has lost control. They drink despite the consequences. Their life is increasingly defined by their need for alcohol, and attempts to moderate fail.
But here’s the thing: the image of an “alcoholic” is often distorted. We picture someone homeless, living on the streets, or in and out of jail. We don’t picture someone successful, someone with a family, someone who looks like they have it all together. And that’s the danger. Alcoholism doesn’t discriminate. It affects people from all walks of life, regardless of their background, profession, or social status.
This misconception – this stigma – keeps people trapped in denial. They tell themselves, “I can’t be an alcoholic, I have a job/family/house.” They minimize their drinking, comparing themselves to those who “have it worse.” But the truth is, alcoholism is a progressive disease. It starts subtly, maybe with just a few extra drinks to unwind after work. But over time, it takes hold, tightening its grip until it consumes your life.
So, how do you know if you have a problem? Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Do you find yourself thinking about drinking often?
- Do you need a drink to relax or cope with stress?
- Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed about your drinking?
- Have others expressed concern about your alcohol consumption?
- Have you tried to cut back or quit drinking but been unsuccessful?
- Do you experience blackouts or memory loss after drinking?
- Do you drink in secret or hide your drinking from others?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, it’s crucial to seek help. There are many resources available to help you overcome alcohol addiction and reclaim your life. The freedom room can help
Remember, asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. It’s the first step on the road to recovery.
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